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43 Name: Anonymous : 2019-11-26 01:00
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I think your feelings on the matter are pretty reasonable, it's totally understandable that you'd feel conflicted about compromising your relationship with your grandmother, which you seem to value a lot. What do you think your relationship means to your grandmother? Maybe it's a bit of a cliché, but it seems like maternal figures have a lot of attachment to the idea of keeping the family together. But it's obvious that such ideas shouldn't be prioritised over your own well-being. So I'd say, if your grandmother is unwilling to recognise the importance of your relationship (maybe you could express to her the ways in which you value the relationship privately) over some abstract idea of family unity, then I don't think you'd be in the wrong for disobeying her. It's a real shame that some people can't be reasonable sometimes. For me personally, it's sometimes worth it to grit my teeth and face the music, even where it's something unpleasant. But if you don't think you can put on a brave face and put up with your family's bullshit then don't, not even for your grandmother's sake. It's her own fault for failing to recognise the unreasonable position she's placed you in, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.

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