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The End Of The Year And The Start Of A New Decade
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The End Of The Year And The Start Of A New Decade

1 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-01 07:13
What are you doing to prepare for a new year and decade?
Do you have specific goals already set in mind?
Are you working towards to achieving them?
Is there something holding you back such as depression, anxiety, and/or something else?

I personally plan on finding some sort of stability in my life. I'm not looking to get rich, reach "internet" fame, or anything special like that. I just want to finally get off of my ass and do soemthing for the most part. The 2010s was more or less a massive waste of time. I spent most of this decade as a NEET but I did spend a lot of my time learning a lot in technology, develop better creative skills, and even found more or less the road to my spiritual/philosophical path. I know who I want to be and what I want to do with my life. I know it's not going to be an easy path but I finally have come to realize that nobody is going to hand that life to me. I'm going to have to work hard with my own strength, admit my own weaknesses, and open my life up to some risk. I must overcome my depression, my fears, my anxieties, end my bad habits, work on my self-discipline as well as my self-control, and stop doubting my own abilities that lie within. I understand my position in life and what I need to do to fix it. I have already been working out and focusing everything into my mental health this year. I know it's not going to be fixed with a "snap of my fingers" or in the matter of a short time. But I know with dedication, determination, and never giving up. That's the only way I or any of us can get what we truly want out of life. I'm finally at a point in my life where I don't give a shit about what other people may think of me. That was something that always consumed me whenever I was younger growing up as a teenager and even during my early adulthood. I'm beyond all of that now. The biggest problem and what causes a lot of mental illnesses in our lives is the fact we try to keep our true selves locked up tight with the key hidden from us. Well it's high time that I take that key and unlock my heart. Regardless what anyone else thinks or feels towards me. In the end it's my damn life not theirs. I plan on trying to find some type of job, doesn't have to be anything special, and if I don't like it I don't have to stick with it until the end of time. Just long enough to use it to climb up to the next stage of life. I also need to come with terms such as acceptance. Accepting my flaws, my weaknesses, my own self problems such as the mental illnesses I suffer from, and remember the strengths that come with some of those "mental illnesses". I believe honestly a lot of us that don't fit in with the norm of society have been tricked into thinking we're nothing but victims. That something is wrong with us to not have the lives we truly desire. I say "SCREW THE RULES OF SOCIETY" I'll be my own person. I'll be creative and make what I want, what I enjoy, and not let others opinions get in the way. Because I won't be doing it for them, but for myself. Find my passion and let it burn like a fire that's hotter than the sun. That's my goal for next year as well as the rest of the 2020s.
2 Name: Paperplane : 2019-12-01 07:47
Not a big fan of these kind of new year resolutions. You don't need a arbitrary number changing by 1 to make improvements in your life and people who wait for that number shift to finally get up sit down again just as quickly. I meanbI hope you achieve your goals but I've just seen these things fail too many times to not be sceptical.
3 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-01 07:50
Not much aside from the methodical path of finishing up this semester's school work. I've still got time to outline what I want to do with my life, that's probably what I'll end up doing this next year. I should probably work on personal projects to make myself stand out from other people and then apply for a job. Once that is completed I can accomplish so many things, retirement plans, investments and maybe being able to finally help out people in my family who need it.
4 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-01 11:25
I'm not sure if I want to think about it.
Current decade was harsh and painful. I hope things will be better in the next decade. That's all.

It's nice that you could build a thread around your need to vent out. I can relate to some of your problems, keep up your good work.
5 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-01 11:40
>>1
That's a good goal. I know people who have considered themselves victims of this or that or of the system and then used that as an excuse to avoid self-betterment, so it is good to hear you are trying to push out of that. Good luck mate. I hope you succeed!

This next decade I'm going to be shifting away from University, fully into the working world and hopefully start a family along the way. In terms of new year resolutions, I need to waste less time. There is a lot of junk that I can get sucked into just lurking on social media that I can cut out.

I'm pedantic, so I can't help but point out that we aren't really entering the next decade yet because that would be in 2021. The Julian calendar (which is the same as the Gregorian Calendar in this regard) started at year 1 AD without a historical year 0 between 1 BC and 1 AD. In this way, years 1-10 are a decade, 1-100 are a century, and 1-1000 are a millennia. 2011-2020 is thus a decade in this system, but I also get why that might be weird and people prefer the other way around with 2010-2019 being a decade.
6 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-02 02:59
I just hope I do better in all areas. That's it really.
7 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-02 04:58
>>2
I can understand that but I'm at literal breaking point in my current life. Losing everyone and every part of myself throughout the last 10 years has beat my life into a darkness I never thought was imaginable. I'm more or less in a situation where it's a matter of life or death if I don't do something about myself soon. My frustrations alone are bringing me to a more motivated level of wanting to do more than ever before. I also hope that things will work out for a better outcome as well. Thank you for your reply and even further motivating me pushing me to understand if I get overwhelmed that it's not about the "number of the year" but the goal in mind.

>>3
What are you going to school for might I ask? I'm trying to decide what order to do things with further educating myself currently. I'd like to take some classes either in a small college or even work on possibly getting a certificate in a trade within the next year. There's a vocational school in my town that has some classes that are affordable and that might just be at least my answer to finding a job that's above minimum wage in my area helping me escalate towards my goals further and more efficiently as well. I have a lot of ideas for personal projects that I've wanted to do for years but mostly put them off due to self-doubt or not having the proper equipment not willing to attempt things with what I do have. But you have some ideas in mind and that's a good thing. I wish the best of luck to you as well. May the ones here that have suffered finally break free of their chains.

>>4
I hope things are better in your situation and life as well. This decade has been beyond painful to me. Losing loved ones and having others taken away in violent acts of horrible actions. When your mom is killed and seeing the blood in her home where she laid dying bleeding out changes you completely. Having all of your friends turn on you laughing about having you jumped next time they see you in public, what bit of your family that's still around disown you, and being completely alone in an area where nobody understands you. Things have been hard. I'm ready to get out of here and have a fresh start in life. There's nothing left here for me except for pain.

>>5
Yeah, I've played the victim for far too long allowing myself to dwell in self-pity for other reasons than what I listed to >>4. My own problems outside of everything else that's happened to me. I'm ready for self-improvement more than I ever have been. I've said for years that I was going to make a change but it never felt "right" until now. I've hit a low in my life where I literally have nothing else to lose except for essentially my life. I want to have a life, I really do. There's so much I haven't seen or done and I want to experience more. I want to use what may be the "second" part of my life living. I know it may sound corny but I've always had the quote from "Tuck Everlasting" play in the back of my mind. “Don't be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life. You don't have to live forever, you just have to live.” Thank you for the mindful thoughts. I hope the best to you as well in those regards. I understand that as well, I too need to work on my time management. How I utilize my time making the best of it. I've already taken it upon myself to cut social media out of my life. I do frequent some places such as this a little too much though. So I'll try to make shorter visits with active threads once and a while. As at least there's some meaningful conversations compared to mindlessly scrolling a feed even though we're all anonymous here. I used to think about the years and decades like that when I was younger. I guess I got used to the whole idea of '50s,'60s,'70s,'80s,'90s, and so on eventually looking at it in that way as it's commonly seen here.

>>6
Nothing wrong with that, self-improvement in some way is the best thing any of us can really do at the core. I can see you as trying to take it one day at a time doing the best that you can do with the flow of things currently going on in your life. Good luck to you on your journey next year. I mean that.
8 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-08 21:03
I'd like to get my bachelors, land a job, keep practicing my social skills, and continue to learn and experience as much as I can about the world. If things go well I'd like to land a relationship and make new friends. No need to give an emotional speech: I already believe in myself. I'm confident that if I take on these goals with a strategy, evaluate my progress, and try again with an improved strategy, I'll keep increasing my likelihood for success. One step at a time, I'll find my way.
9 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-08 21:18
I'd like to finally get my driver's license, which I've been putting off for years and years. I'd also like to move into a more or less permanent home. I've been renting places for most of my adult life, so I've never quite settled into a particular place since it always felt temporary. Maybe this is being too optimistic, but I'd like to keep my new home clean and comfortable, and maybe raise some potted plants or something. It's quite exciting to think about all the things I'd like to do, like setting up a home theatre or equipping a nice kitchen.
10 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-09 22:03
I want to move out of the city. I'm not one of those people who idealize the countryside as the bastion of freedom, but I've never felt secure or comfortable living here. Luckily I've got a new job that allows me to move to other workplaces quite easily.
Hope it all goes well.
11 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-11 05:56
>>8
I really need to work on my social skills as well. I'd like to find a new group of friends but that seems harder to do as the older I get considering most people are married while deeper into raising a family by the time they are my age. I'm still more of a child myself still yet despite my age. Trying to figure out some way to find people locally or semi-locally that I could share hobbies and interests with. There's a couple of places throughout an hour or two radius from me that older people gather to play table top games, mostly MTG and D&D campaigns. Sadly without means of travel or transportation I'm stuck though. It's a tough thing to figure out.

>>9
Those sound like good goals. I also need to get a driver's license to overcome a giant leap of problems not having one has caused for me during many years of my adult life. Also would allow me to meet up to increase my chances of making friends.

>>10
It's kind of ironic that a lot of people want the opposite of what they grew up familiar with. I don't want to exactly move into a "big city" and have that kind of life. But it would be more exciting to actually have places to walk to or different opportunities. I'm not much into the outdoor life either. I know that's something I should try to work on but I simply enjoy being indoors working around with some type of tech or media.
12 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-12 21:08
What are you doing to prepare for a new year and decade?
Do you have specific goals already set in mind?
New years resolutions don't work the way people usually do them. People make a list of goals and, come the new year, start at them, and they gradually taper off, and then they give the goal up. This is just how much unprepared goal-setting tends to work, but that's what people usually do at new-years. When that's what happens each time, the result is that giving up new-years goals is habitual. It may be better to add whatever goals you might have, as soon as you get them, to a list of goals. Then, whenever you are working on your goals, you can always consult this list and choose from the top. (You can go from the top item, then, after trying that for a while, if it's not working, go to the next item, etc. occasionally updating the goals list to better reflect what you want to do.)
Are you working towards to achieving them?
My way of doing it hasn't been working out, either.
Perhaps for new years, my goal shall be to work out for at least 1 second every morning. With such an easy goal, it'll be stupid to not achieve it.
Is there something holding you back such as depression, anxiety, and/or something else?
Probably depression. But that feels like it's just a sucky excuse for being lazy.
Another problem is that my will is too strong. I can only do something if I want want to do it. In the past, I'd be easy to make myself want to do what I need to do, but that's faded.
I haven't quite recovered from my skepticism. Now, even mathematics seem suspect. Which is absurd, because part of the definition of mathematics is that it's theorems are eternal. I suppose that I'm stuck on that what we know as mathematics is not mathematics but the image of mathematics in this fuzzy world. I don't know how to resolve that one. And I can't progress until I do. And I can't do anything unless it's grounded in mathematics, which, to me, presently, has a shaky foundation. I wish I never learned philosophy.
I used to not care about my image. Now, I want my image to best represent me.
I've had the outline of my decade plan for a about a few years now, but i'm still only a year into it. My plan for the next couple years is sufficiently detailed that I can just wake up, recall where I am in my plan, and just start doing what's next. But I just don't.

I just did my daily second of exercise. I feel ironically acomplished. Perhaps I'll post here each time I do my daily second of exercise.
13 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-16 04:29
Ideally? I simply have to make as much money as possible. I'm about 990,000 dollars in debt, so that's all.

That, and spend more time drinking tea with my partner.
14 Name: Anonymous : 2019-12-16 09:14
My plan was to get a place of my own but I didn't manage to reach that point. I'm not financially independent enough to buy a house and houses aren't very affordable either. Fortunately my parents understand the situation and allow me to save up a little while I live over at their place.
Still I want to change my situation. I would loved to have a family of my own by now but I'm still struggling at the first steps, finding a partner. Even though some would call me young, I feel like I'm running late all the time.

But to end on a positive note, I really hope to make big personal developments, especially in arts as I greatly enjoy painting which has been a hobby of mine, and I'm going to do my best to get my hands on a house.
15 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-02 02:47
HAPPY NEW YEAR (and i wish you all swift hangover cures)

Goals:
Calorie Restriction habit formed
write more
play more music (and get paid for it)
play less vidya
stop shutting myself in the house for days straight
16 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-02 03:37
>>15
stop shutting myself in the house for days straight
This is good as long as you actually have something to do outside of the house
17 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-02 07:38
HAPPY NEW YEAR, POST OFFICE!
18 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-02 10:13
What are you doing to prepare for a new year and decade?
Nothing much. Savings were drained because a family member got sick, so I have to start over again.

Do you have specific goals already set in mind?
I've set them ages ago but never quite got around to starting them: learn Japanese, learn guitar, continue learning Python, and find a better job. I'm 30 years old; I hope it's not too late for me.

Are you working towards to achieving them?
I guess. I've begun rereading about Japanese grammar.

Is there something holding you back such as depression, anxiety, and/or something else?
My job killed any interest in reading and writing, the two main hobbies of mine ever since I could start doing them. Hopefully when I move out of the industry I'll stop being lazy and actually get back to learning.
19 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-03 10:03
Let's make it a good year.
I feel positive about 2020, not quite sure why but 2019 had been a bit rough and given me plenty of new experiences (good and bad) and I feel wiser and more determined than before.
The only thing I hope is that I don't have to spend the entire year alone.
20 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-03 12:03
>>19
Same. I want it to be a good year and more fulfilling than the last. I've already started back into drawing, photo editing, and making videos. I plan on trying to find a job here soon and work on furthering my education. Just wanting to add a little bit more into my "daily activities" as a whole. I spent way too much time wasted last year dwelling into the abyss of my depression.
21 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-07 06:13
I am glad to see people are aking the opportunity to make positive changes in their lives. During the last 2 months of the year I realized that I might hav been stressing way more thn necessar,and have taken a step to take tihngs slower. Like, literally slower. Being methodical and slow about what I do has helped me reduce stress from my life a great deal.

I have also taken the philosophy of "if it takes less than 5 minutes to do something, do it now", and it has worked pretty well. My goals this year are to keep doing that. And to read more. I need to get back to the habit of reading I enjoyed so much in middle school.

That's about it
22 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-08 03:40
op, you need Jesus
23 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-10 19:41
Things haven't been too bad the first 10 days in.
24 Name: Anonymous : 2020-06-29 07:30
2020 is almost halfway done. It was quite the disaster so far.
25 Name: Paperplane : 2020-06-29 09:28
>>24
Correct.
It's day 181 today. Personally as well as globally, this isn't a good year. Some very very positive things must happen for me not to keep 2020 in bad memories.
26 Name: Anonymous : 2020-06-29 18:25
I'm pretty scared and I'm not talking about covid.
27 Name: Anonymous : 2020-07-02 02:30
>>26
Pretty sure we all are to be quite honest.

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