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No friends
18 replies
179 days old
last post: Dec 19, 2017

No friends

1 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-23 21:52
I have no friends. I feel alone and sad
2 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-24 01:54
You could find you are very welcome at the the Rainbow family gathering in Oregon this year if you are in America. Here are the coordinates http://www.welcomehome.org/rainbow/sites/annual-site.html

You can find/offer transport to the gathering here http://www.starsrainbowrideboard.org/
3 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-24 11:41
You could try to find some friends online if you can't find any in "real life", and you have some specific interests. Through IRC and Twitter I found lots of great people who live pretty far away from me, but with whom I still try to meet up AFK regularly; I'm even looking to move someplace with one as roommates.
Just try to get involved in some community online and see if you can fit in, and try to think positively.
Or try to find some group activity you're interested in around your area; maybe some kind of sport or something related to music, like a band or a choir; I made some great friends that way too.
4 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-25 19:38
I'm in a similar situation.
No friends and only lately I actually feel lonely.
I'm having a really hard time getting in contact with people and if I manage to get something going I'm having a terribly hard time to keep a relationship.

I can't even do smalltalk and I fear that this is essential in keeping up any sort of relationship.
5 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-26 16:04
Small talk is what you do at cocktail parties with people you secretly despise, not with friends.
6 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-26 19:51
And with acquaintances you don't know very well, who could become friends (or people you secretly despise).

I don't know if you work or go to school or church or something, OP, but anything like that where you're regularly in contact with the same people can be a good place to make friends. Take your time, don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
7 Name: Anonymous : 2017-07-29 07:50
Try going to events around your hobbies or interests.
8 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-04 03:14
Ehh...isnt it usually the other way around?

I mean, i can only small talk with acquaintances i trust enough to talk to. Everyone else i just stay to-the-point with.
9 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-04 07:37
Maybe we have different definitions of ""small talk." To me it means talking about stuff that doesn't really matter, Like saying to a coworker, "Hey man, how was your weekend?" "Small talk" is what I call the polite conversations I have with people I don't really know.
10 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-04 22:16
Describe your two most fulfilling hobbies, your three most important world views, and one thing you really can't do well.
11 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-06 07:39
Do most people really have two whole hobbies and three important world views? Where do you find the time and audaciousness for all of that?
12 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-28 18:25
I think that'd be a good idea for a thread. I might make it one day.
13 Name: Anonymous : 2017-11-21 08:47
You clearly don't read enough. In the past week I have said more to other people through letters / emails than I have in person. Solitude is no reason to slacken mentally. IRC/chats are the worst thing someone like you could get into so avoid them like the plague.
14 Name: Anonymous : 2017-11-26 00:46
I think isolation, loneliness, and everything pertaining to it are interesting subjects to reason about, partly I'd say so because it feels like this set of topics is very accessible to almost everyone. Many of us, and I think anecdotal evidence might suggest an increasing estrangement and social isolation in "our" societies as a whole, are acquainted with these concepts in a very non-abstract and acute way, but often in different forms (think of a Lost in Translation kind of isolation versus something you'd expect to be experienced by a student,) leading to many instances of these situations of loneliness that might be more akin to each other than a first glance might convey.
I sometimes yearn to relive parts of my childhood where it felt as if communication was necessarily connected with everything I did; and in hindsight I think that I already started to find surrogates for communication back then when I was only around thirteen (seven years ago,) the time I first consciously experienced that the general means of communication started to diverge from my own. Animal Crossing, for the original Nintendo DS, is a game that basically boils down to communicating with others, at ease, and I loved it. Just thinking of it now fills my upper body with a warm feeling.
Projects like this textboard let me relive things I seldom experience anymore, despite of the artificial manner of this kind of communication, to which I am, as I've suggested, used to since my early youth. Textboards as my form of replacing something that's missing -- maybe I should use my programming skills to come up with something that combines the spatial aspects of a game with the communicative purity of textboards like this one. Till then I'll stick around here. Thank you, whoever created this board, and the people who fill it. You make me feel less lonely.
15 Name: Anonymous : 2017-12-05 02:33
Name: Anonymous : 2017-11-26 00:46
what a faggot
16 Name: Anonymous : 2017-12-05 04:40
that was a very interesting and warm way to describe it, thank you. id love to see a textboard like that. theres a lot of potential for new ideas regarding slow sites like this, and reading and browsing through these every now and then always calms me a bit too. ive grown the connection between animal crossing and this site too, it reminds me of it. good vibes for us fags.
17 Name: Anonymous : 2017-12-19 11:11
I am afraid this will happen to me soon. I already don't really have "friends," but I still at least make regular social contact with "acquaintances." When I graduate, I will only be more isolated. I don't want to live a life where the only social stimulation I get is from my coworkers or whatever.
I suppose I never really developed the "skills" to go out and make friends. I was always passive in that regard; if people happened to like being around me, they would become my friends.
18 Name: Anonymous : 2017-12-20 07:42
I graduated from Uni and became a NEET. Most of my friends slowly disappeared and I became isolated, lonely, and my mental problems increased, so it is getting harder to find a job.

However I ended up going to a local Linux User Group, and met some fun people there, so who knows I might be able to make some friends after all.


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